Happiness seems to be a buzz word lately. It's as if there has been a new awakening among people, happy or not, for a renewed effort to be happy -- sort of that it's a new or forgotten concept and that happiness is almost a fad, which is quite unfortunate if that is the case. Perhaps it is just me whose lived under a giant, disconnected rock called Africa for the last 3+ years, I was quite ignorant to people's state of happiness or even more so their unhappiness. It is easy to be blind to the ebbs and flows of a society when you are not an active participant. I have found this to be the case on many topics not just this one.
In recent months I have become increasingly aware of the happiness revival: 'Happy' by Pharrell Williams sweeping the nation and the world, #100daysofhappiness, a plethora of smiley faces and more discussions among friends and colleagues about this thing called happy(ness). Don't get me wrong, happiness is a beautiful thing; however, isn't this a deeper reflection of our own unhappiness as a society that we now are hashtagging, creating visual and audible cues that 'oh, I should be happy' questioning as if life was supposed to be anything different?
I mentioned in my last blog post that I would be giving up my SMART phone. In my first few months back in the United States I was quite dependent on it. After living for several years within a 5mile radius, I had lost my sense of direction which was very frustrating. Constantly moving from couch to couch, city to city, my SMART phone allowed me to navigate my way but also stay connected at all times to my significant other while doing international long distance.
Once we were reunited, we agreed for many reasons to get ride of the SMART phone. Neither one of us had used such a device for several years, if ever, and having a high-tech gadget seemed like a luxury not a necessity. We were also forced to start consolidating our lives, including finances, and having a SMART phone just doesn't work in our budget at the moment. We also became quite aware how society was choosing for us how we should live -- through an app. We decided to become resistant instead of transformative.
I must admit, it was harder than I expected. I kept prolonging the day that I would give it up. Gabs starting making fun of me, annoyingly asking if I was courageous enough to live without it. We went to AT&T to ask about a new sim card for a 'normal' phone. The guy eager to help rushed to the back, switched my number to a 'regular' sim and came back saying my micro-sim was no longer in use. I think my jaw hit the floor. I was a bit in shock. I wasn't ready to give it up that day but no choice now, all sorted with a smile.
As difficult as it was initially to give it up, it has been surprisingly easy to live without it. Our lives are a bit more inconvenient per other people's standards but it has increased our #happiness. It has forced us to communicate more in terms of planning routes, discovering new places because we get lost or start up random conversations with strangers because we aren't plugged into a device allowing us to passive-aggressively ignore the world. We also spend more time together because now connecting to the other world means intentionally getting on a computer, which most of the time I can't be bothered with outside of 8am-4pm Monday-Friday.
The most shocking thing since giving up the SMART phone is realizing how reliant the rest of the world is on it. We have become quite sensitive now to people on their SMART phones and how they interact with the world. It is very sad to see a group of friends 'eating' dinner together at a restaurant while all are spending their time together in cyber space. It is even sadder to see parents automatically handing off tablets, ipads and phones to their children in periods of stillness teaching them that they also need to be connected to something outside of their physical sphere. Living as a pedestrian with 80% of drivers on their phone, I have been nearly road kill on a weekly basis. And all of this has just been a sad mirroring of what my own life was just a few months ago.
What is the long-term key to your happiness?
Happiness is an everyday thing lasting longer than 100 days or the life of someone else's 4:08minute music video. I have learned that a life of simplicity and balance is when I have true happiness. My happy place lies in quality, genuine relationships. It is also the silent moments not filled with noise: music, beeps, buzzes or alerts.
Happiness -- it's in everyday, all around you.
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